One of the most significant problems with anger is when an angry person escalates it until it gets out of control. This happens in families, in relationships, in the workplace and certainly in the streets. Raging anger can lead to long-term destruction: the drive to seek revenge, to fuel ongoing anger, or to find ways to keep […]
When we think about out-of-control anger, we tend to think about it as an adult problem. However, some children have verbal or physical outbursts that frighten parents and caregivers.
We have been discussing the topic of anger in many different ways in my last series of posts. Some may think that anger is benign in its impact as long as no one “gets hurt.” However, it is interesting to think about what some researchers are saying about the impact of anger on children.
Parenting can be very difficult. When a child is misbehaving or acts emotionally out-of-control, parents can become so exasperated that they “lose it” and say or do things that they wish they had not.
In my last post, we discussed the importance of knowing your anger triggers. Many triggers can cause us to respond with intense anger, which can be extremely destructive to our relationships. What about the person who learned responses of anger as a part of the core beliefs of his or her family?
My last few posts have discussed ways to deal with anger using “after-the-fact” anger strategies, when an episode of anger has already occurred. But what are triggers that prompt an episode of anger?
When you are confronted with a situation involving anger, it is important to apply a strategic plan for your response. We have been considering the idea of ACEing anger. Assessing, then making Choices, and the last and most important part of dealing with anger, Executing your choices.
To recap, we have been discussing dealing with anger. I have used the acronym ACE to describe the process of dealing with anger, whether your anger or the anger you and someone else may be experiencing. The first component of ACE is to Assess the angry situation. The “C” stands for the Choices you may select […]
In my last two posts I have discussed the CHOICES open to you when you are angry or when someone is angry at you. These choices are part of the ACEing process that you need to do when you are dealing with anger. What do you choose when you are angry with each other?