In my last post we discussed toxic versus healthy shame. We also reflected on guilt and how it can either be healthy or unhealthy. We realize that a certain level of shame and guilt can be healthy if it affirms our humanity, helps us to learn our limits and affirms our values. However, as I encounter […]
In my last post we learned how shame, fear and violence are connected. We have been discussing the fact that a violent act stems from the violent individual’s significant feelings of shame. But is shame always something that causes a strong negative reaction?
We are discussing some of the reasons and causes why people become violent. My last posts referred to the work of James Gilligan and preventing violence. Today, I’ll look at Gilligan’s important finding of the link between shame, fear and violence.
In my last post, I reviewed the research of James Gilligan on the issue of violence. Gilligan did a significant amount of work with inmates and discovered what we think is a profound premise concerning the link between shame and violence.
Some of the most profound research on the issue of violence has come from James Gilligan. In his book, Preventing Violence, Mr. Gilligan draws from his experience in the prisons and prison mental hospital in Massachusetts as former Director of Psychiatric Services. He was also on the faculty of Harvard Medical School for over 25 years. […]
As we consider the topic of violence, it is important that we understand the role of anger as it relates to aggressive or violent acts.
As I have attempted to surface some current research and strategies to deal with anger, I do hope the past few weeks of posts have been helpful. But what happens when anger turns uglier? Today’s post begins looking at violence, specifically, how to prevent it.
One of the most significant problems with anger is when an angry person escalates it until it gets out of control. This happens in families, in relationships, in the workplace and certainly in the streets. Raging anger can lead to long-term destruction: the drive to seek revenge, to fuel ongoing anger, or to find ways to keep […]
When we think about out-of-control anger, we tend to think about it as an adult problem. However, some children have verbal or physical outbursts that frighten parents and caregivers.