We have been writing about one of the most important aspects of effective discipline, using consequences in a healthy way. A critical component of disciplinary consequences is how we communicate them to our children. How we speak or implement those consequences can affect our children’s lives (and resulting behavior) differently than parents may intend.
Parents can come up with surprisingly creative ways to redirect a child’s inappropriate behavior. However, it is important for parents to know what they are implementing because consistent use of any disciplinary tactic such as a bribe or reward can incur a positive result…or not.
In my last post, we discussed the idea of using consequences as the primary means for effectively disciplining a child. We believe the research on parenting and disciplining strongly supports the use of good or healthy consequences.
In discussing parenting and effective discipline, we established how it differs from punishment. Effective discipline teaches, encourages, motivates and intentionally imposes restrictions to limit potentially harmful behaviors. Consequences are key to effective discipline and valuable for parents to understand.
In parenting education, we use a lot of similar words to describe different ideas. Some parents use these words interchangeably, which redefines the words into what they may understand them to mean. For these reasons, it can be confusing when discussing the topic of parenting and effective discipline. For example, some people would equate limit-setting and discipline as the […]
We have begun a new blog series on effective discipline, a key issue for parents striving to help their children grow and develop in healthy ways. Some parents choose punishment or the threat of punishment as a way to motivate and control a child’s behavior, arguing that punishment can help to stop undesired behavior. However, parenting experts are […]
As we begin our discussion of effective discipline, perhaps we should start by defining what it is and isn’t. Since I often hear parents discussing what they do to get their children or teenagers to comply with rules or change behavior, I also hear how much diversity exists in the understanding of discipline.
Many would agree that one of the toughest jobs is parenting. With children are numerous, sometimes overwhelming, variables: temperaments, issues, emotions, complex developmental changes often occurring simultaneously. The process of parenting takes a totally dependent infant to an independent adult, and while that process can be incredibly enjoyable, it is not without some extremely challenging periods, especially when involving […]
Why have I spent so much time discussing a variety of anger topics? Because unhealthy anger has the capacity to do incredible damage to our children, families, society and, yes, even our world. The news is filled with stories where anger has led to tragedy. In working with at-risk students at Lakeside, we recognize the role anger has played in their […]