One of the most difficult issues parents and caregivers face is when it feels like our children or teenagers have committed a serious offense. We may feel appalled at their behavior, that what they have done has significant impact. In our programs at Lakeside, we deal with teenagers who have had some really serious problems. […]
I am winding up our series on Effective Discipline, one of the most important topics we can talk about as parents. I hope that we have been able to share some new thoughts, principles and tools that will encourage you in your parenting responsibilities and to help our children to mature in a healthy, disciplined way.
While on a beach vacation, I was watching a dad and mom with their elementary-aged son and daughter. I remembered when my two sons were younger, but the scene also illustrated to me a great truth of healthy parenting as it relates to discipline—how important it is to take time for family fun.
In order to be effective discipliners of children, parents and caregivers should act in an executive capacity, which means that they should be embracing their role and responsibility of being in charge. A closer look at the Executive Role in parenting reveals what that entails.
As parents and caregivers know, times when our children enter moments of emotional disequilibrium can cause rough spots in our relationship, especially when we are attempting to correct or change their behavior. Recognizing that children typically lack judgment, are impulsive and egocentric, we realize that challenges to parental authority can easily occur. Anger and intense power struggles may escalate. Would a time-out be appropriate and how […]
We have been writing about one of the most important aspects of effective discipline, using consequences in a healthy way. A critical component of disciplinary consequences is how we communicate them to our children. How we speak or implement those consequences can affect our children’s lives (and resulting behavior) differently than parents may intend.
Parents can come up with surprisingly creative ways to redirect a child’s inappropriate behavior. However, it is important for parents to know what they are implementing because consistent use of any disciplinary tactic such as a bribe or reward can incur a positive result…or not.
In my last post, we discussed the idea of using consequences as the primary means for effectively disciplining a child. We believe the research on parenting and disciplining strongly supports the use of good or healthy consequences.