While on a beach vacation, I was watching a dad and mom with their elementary-aged son and daughter. I remembered when my two sons were younger, but the scene also illustrated to me a great truth of healthy parenting as it relates to discipline—how important it is to take time for family fun.
In order to be effective discipliners of children, parents and caregivers should act in an executive capacity, which means that they should be embracing their role and responsibility of being in charge. A closer look at the Executive Role in parenting reveals what that entails.
As parents and caregivers know, times when our children enter moments of emotional disequilibrium can cause rough spots in our relationship, especially when we are attempting to correct or change their behavior. Recognizing that children typically lack judgment, are impulsive and egocentric, we realize that challenges to parental authority can easily occur. Anger and intense power struggles may escalate. Would a time-out be appropriate and how […]
We have been writing about one of the most important aspects of effective discipline, using consequences in a healthy way. A critical component of disciplinary consequences is how we communicate them to our children. How we speak or implement those consequences can affect our children’s lives (and resulting behavior) differently than parents may intend.
Parents can come up with surprisingly creative ways to redirect a child’s inappropriate behavior. However, it is important for parents to know what they are implementing because consistent use of any disciplinary tactic such as a bribe or reward can incur a positive result…or not.
In my last post, we discussed the idea of using consequences as the primary means for effectively disciplining a child. We believe the research on parenting and disciplining strongly supports the use of good or healthy consequences.
In discussing parenting and effective discipline, we established how it differs from punishment. Effective discipline teaches, encourages, motivates and intentionally imposes restrictions to limit potentially harmful behaviors. Consequences are key to effective discipline and valuable for parents to understand.
In parenting education, we use a lot of similar words to describe different ideas. Some parents use these words interchangeably, which redefines the words into what they may understand them to mean. For these reasons, it can be confusing when discussing the topic of parenting and effective discipline. For example, some people would equate limit-setting and discipline as the […]
We have begun a new blog series on effective discipline, a key issue for parents striving to help their children grow and develop in healthy ways. Some parents choose punishment or the threat of punishment as a way to motivate and control a child’s behavior, arguing that punishment can help to stop undesired behavior. However, parenting experts are […]