Parenting is hard, especially when you put energy into trying to parent in healthy and effective ways, with long-term goals of wanting to nurture emotional and relational health for your children. How do you parent during those challenging situations when you may feel guilty? And how do you parent when you recognize how often you aren’t […]
An article from the website Psychalive caught my eye this week, and I thought I would share some of the information I found about narcissistic parenting. I invite us all to think about this concept Referring to an article from the American Psychological Association entitled “Stress by Generations,” the authors theorize the fact millennial parents report […]
First appearing on ACES connection, this is a thought-provoking poem written by Tian Dayton. I think it is self-explanatory and compelling. Children Learn What They Live If children live with parents who are high, They learn that people are unpredictable and unreliable. If children live with denial, They learn to mistrust what they feel and […]
In my last post, I invited readers to learn about some ways memories may be transgenerational in nature. Like me, many people who learn this are fascinated by it and its possible ramifications. It can be a real game changer in understanding why we each think, believe and behave as we do. So I am […]
Something I read several days ago literally has been haunting me. While I write about basic parenting principles and approaches for Lakeside, this information seems essential for anyone who provides care both to very young or older children.
A lot of attention has arisen around the topic of bias. Have you noticed? How do our personal biases affect our children? Due to publicly brewing issues of profiling, shootings, and now the ban on certain travelers coming to America racism, bias or other forms of cultural diversity are now topical discussions in families and […]
As parents, how often do we tell ourselves we will not parent our children in the ways we were parented? Why do we believe making ourselves that promise will somehow prevent that from happening? What makes us think we will remember a legacy parenting tactic in the heat of our parenting moment?
There is a good reason Selma Fraiberg titled her classic book The Magic Years. In it, she describes how much magical thinking is a part of the everyday world of children, especially the years from 3-to-7 or so.
“What did you do today?” “Let’s see who can do this better!” “You should try to get the highest score in the class.” “I wonder who can be the first one to finish homework”
How many of us remember having to write thank-you notes to those who gave us gifts at Christmas or any other time of the year?