In my last post, I introduced the idea that the road to independence for children is paved by healthy opportunities to be dependent on parents and caregivers (secure base). Being responsive when children want to be held and comforted, and not forcing children to separate when they are overwhelmed by fear ultimately can result in children […]
Sometimes parents worry the focus on promoting emotional health and meeting children’s needs will create very dependent children who are unable to stand on their own two feet. How infants and children learn to feel secure Theories about letting babies “cry it out,” or not coming to the aid of an older child who calls […]
Of course, joy! Being a parent has its share of surprises, too, something most of us could not appreciate until we begin the journey. One of the surprises is the depth of love one feels towards their child. Most of us have experienced love and friendship, love for our parents, other family members, and our […]
When my now adult children were young, I found the research from the Gesell Institute explained so much about why they behaved in the ways that they did. Often, it would seem the behaviors were unexplainable, especially the difficult ones. I remember when my sweet and loving two-year-old suddenly became belligerent and defiant, actually spitting […]
A key responsibility for parents throughout their parenting “career” involves intentionally and mindfully knowing and appreciating some basic principles of child development. By knowing and appreciating some of these basics, parents can adjust their responses to their children’s behaviors to be fairer and better able to meet the needs of their children.
As we continue to explore the important but often complex subject of effective discipline, it might be helpful for parents to consider some of the clues that would be beneficial to them in becoming clearer, more confident and more competent when it comes to effective discipline.
Readers of this blog have been invited to explore some of the key principles of effective discipline using the image of a report card. Summarizing these principles gives us a snapshot of these principles.
Parents today are often living hectic, chaotic lives. They are constantly on-call, must be ever-vigilant, and are the ones in charge of the entire complex operation of daily life in their homes and in the worlds their children experience.
We are now at the end of our examination of a Parenting Effective Discipline Report card. Today readers are invited to consider adding our last “F” to that report card—being Flexible.
In my last post, I invited readers to consider the difference between being firm and being angry. The recommendation was that parents focus on ways to be firm in terms of voice tone and body while at the same time not attempting to overwhelm children with angry, threatening voice tones and body language.