Over the holidays I had the pleasure of going to see Avatar with my son-in-law and three grandsons, ages 16, 13 and 9. The animation was out of this world and the many themes of the movie were powerful. I loved one of the ending messages: “Protecting their family gives men a purpose.” I thought about […]
Instead of New Year’s Resolutions, Try These
Many of us feel pressure to make New Year’s Resolutions, the tradition to focus on things we aspire to do, like exercise every day or stop eating junk food. According to Time Magazine, “…by some estimates, as many as 80% of people fail to keep their New Year’s resolutions by February. Only 8% of people stick with […]
How to Make Meaning From Our Holiday Experiences
As we wrap up our holiday season and prepare for whatever the New Year will bring, let’s take one last look at our experiences with family and friends and how those experiences impacted how we are feeling today. An article from John Hopkins Medicine lists some of the reactions we can have to the holidays, […]
An Encouragement to Pause and Reflect on What Is Expected of You in This Holiday Season
We all live our lives with a myriad of expectations that prepare us for what is going to happen in the coming moments, hours, days, or weeks. We expect and then anticipate what we are confident will occur, making whatever preparations are needed to meet those expectations. Sometimes our expectations are based on what we […]
Why We Get Overwhelmed and What We Can Do
I hear many people lamenting about how overwhelmed they feel at this time of year. I’m right there with them simultaneously wishing I knew what to do to prevent becoming overwhelmed and then how to address it when it happens. The irony is that when we are overwhelmed our brains don’t allow us to be […]
At Last We Can Hug Each Other And Why That’s So Important
One of the biggest losses for all of us during the pandemic was the lack of comfortably touching or hugging each other except perhaps in the privacy of our own homes. Even then, many of us were on edge, fearing that somehow we were exchanging Covid germs. Hugging and touching was to be avoided in […]
Why We Procrastinate with Holiday Obligations
Every year I feel surprised that the holidays are suddenly descending on me and my family! My common sense should tell me, however, that it’s right there on the calendar and I could have noticed it back at the beginning of October to begin the process of readying for what was coming in just a […]
How Deeply Do We Appreciate the Complexity of Our Amazing Brains?
Recently a participant in one of our classes asked for clarification about the whole subject of how the brain can be triggered and what the brain dynamics are when that triggering takes place. I thought readers might appreciate some information to help explain the instantaneous process when a memory is triggered for someone who has […]
How Often Do You Use “Just” in your Communication?
Here is a little food for thought with an invitation to notice how often and why you use the word “just” when communicating with others and even with yourself. I have had a few conversations about this with colleagues and we commented on how including “just” in our wording seems to be a part of […]
Do You Pay Attention to Your Inner Dialogue?
In my last blog I invited readers to notice the extent to which they use You-messages versus the much healthier form of communication, I-messages. Shifting from You-messages to I-messages places the responsibility for whatever is being said on the speaker instead of being accusatory, attacking, or blaming the other person. When people use I-messages, there […]
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